The treatment of Parents will bear fruit in the Hereafter and this transient life. It is upon the shoulders of the children, to ensure that they treat their parents correctly so they might be a means of their forgiveness. If they do not, falling short of the mark then they will be subject to tribulations in this life and the greatest punishment in the Hereafter.
In the previous articles many Narrations were mentioned where the good treatment of parents has been encouraged. The Prophet (SAW) said in various ways that this treatment will ultimately enable a person to enter Paradise, however, many other benefits have also been mentioned by the Prophet (SAW).
One narration of a benefit is where the Prophet (SAW) mentions: “In the pleasure of the father lies the pleasure of Allah and in the anger of the father lies the anger of Allah” (Tirmidhi) This narration is both an incentive and a warning, the pleasure of Allah will make a person experience success both in life and in death. If Allah is pleased with us, He will assist us and ease our afflictions, if He were to be angry with us then we would not be able to fathom the punishment that we would face. Allah looks after all his creation, He fulfills their needs, however, the servants who He is pleased with enjoy special treatment.
The Prophet (SAW) has stated: “He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations.” (Bukhari) (Muslim) One who is benevolent and compassionate towards one’s own relatives, stands to gain at least two definite advantages in this world besides the reward in the next. These two advantages are the increase in his sustenance and longevity of life. Increase in sustenance means that Allah will increase the quantity of his worldly goods or his means of sustenance will be blessed by Him. This individual will also get a long life, this will benefit him as he will have ample opportunity to do good deeds and increase his standing in the Hereafter.
The above Narration is not specific to Parents but to all a person’s blood relations, however, it is common sense that the strongest blood relations a person has are his parents. A common complaint when people are tasked to look after their aging parents is that they lack funds, whereas, this Narration infers that the more a person spends on his family the more Allah will increase his wealth. Treating parents well is a win-win situation.
Just as there are benefits to treating parents well, there are also detriments if we abuse them. To give an indication of the enormity of sin the Prophet (SAW) has listed ill treatment of parents as the grave sins. These grave sins are some of the worst that a person can perpetrate, they are repugnant in the court of Allah and also in the sight of mankind.
Anas (RA) related to us that once the Prophet (SAW) was asked about major sins, he replied: “To associate partners with Allah; to disobey the parents and cause them pain and injury; to kill unlawfully; and to give false evidence.” (Bukhari) The fact that treating the parents badly has been mentioned after the greatest crime a person can do; which is to associate partners unto Allah shows the greatness of sin that a person can be guilty of. If a person is a murderer he is vilified and outcast from society, this does not happen when a person treats their parents unfavourably, yet the latter is still classed as a major sin. We should treat all these sins with the caution they deserve, we should avoid each of them, regardless of the society and if they accept one and not the other.
The abuse of one’s parents does not just entail physical abuse, abuse is very broad, anything which could impugn the honour of one’s parents can be classed as abuse. To the extent that even if a person insults another person’s parents and in retaliation that person replies in the same manner, the first person who insulted will be guilty of impugning his own parent’s honour, (as his insult caused the other person to reply).
This has been clearly stated by the best of creation (SAW), this has been related by Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-as (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “It is one of the gravest sins to abuse one’s parents.” It was asked (by the people): “O Messenger of Allah, can a man abuse his own parents?” The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “He abuses the father of somebody who, in return, abuses the former’s father; he then abuses the mother of somebody who, in return, abuses his mother.” (Bukhari) (Muslim) We see that the abuse of parents is prevalent in our age, people will insult others and abuse their parents under the guise of humour, little do they understand the gravity of such insidious remarks.
Do not follow the masses in such folly, even if you deem the insult to be ‘funny’ a tactless joke is the precursor to slander, do not become a person who is among the people who abused their parents on the Day of Judgement. If you feel as though you have developed a habit of cursing others and involving their parents then apologise and seek forgiveness, exercise silence if that does not work then praise their parents instead of insulting them. This is no small matter. Laughter in this world is fueling the cries of agony in the next.
May Allah give us the ability to treat our parents well and benefit from them. Ameen.