Good treatment of Parents (Part 3: Consequences)

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The treatment of Parents will bear fruit in the Hereafter and this transient life. It is upon the shoulders of the children, to ensure that they treat their parents correctly so they might be a means of their forgiveness. If they do not, falling short of the mark then they will be subject to tribulations in this life and the greatest punishment in the Hereafter.

In the previous articles many Narrations were mentioned where the good treatment of parents has been encouraged. The Prophet (SAW) said in various ways that this treatment will ultimately enable a person to enter Paradise, however, many other benefits have also been mentioned by the Prophet (SAW).

One narration of a benefit is where the Prophet (SAW) mentions: “In the pleasure of the father lies the pleasure of Allah and in the anger of the father lies the anger of Allah” (Tirmidhi) This narration is both an incentive and a warning, the pleasure of Allah will make a person experience success both in life and in death. If Allah is pleased with us, He will assist us and ease our afflictions, if He were to be angry with us then we would not be able to fathom the punishment that we would face. Allah looks after all his creation, He fulfills their needs, however, the servants who He is pleased with enjoy special treatment.

The Prophet (SAW) has stated: “He who desires ample provisions and his life be prolonged, should maintain good ties with his blood relations.” (Bukhari) (Muslim) One who is benevolent and compassionate towards one’s own relatives, stands to gain at least two definite advantages in this world besides the reward in the next. These two advantages are the increase in his sustenance and longevity of life. Increase in sustenance means that Allah will increase the quantity of his worldly goods or his means of sustenance will be blessed by Him. This individual will also get a long life, this will benefit him as he will have ample opportunity to do good deeds and increase his standing in the Hereafter.

The above Narration is not specific to Parents but to all a person’s blood relations, however, it is common sense that the strongest blood relations a person has are his parents. A common complaint when people are tasked to look after their aging parents is that they lack funds, whereas, this Narration infers that the more a person spends on his family the more Allah will increase his wealth. Treating parents well is a win-win situation.

Just as there are benefits to treating parents well, there are also detriments if we abuse them. To give an indication of the enormity of sin the Prophet (SAW) has listed ill treatment of parents as the grave sins. These grave sins are some of the worst that a person can perpetrate, they are repugnant in the court of Allah and also in the sight of mankind.

Anas (RA) related to us that once the Prophet (SAW) was asked about major sins, he replied: “To associate partners with Allah; to disobey the parents and cause them pain and injury; to kill unlawfully; and to give false evidence.” (Bukhari) The fact that treating the parents badly has been mentioned after the greatest crime a person can do; which is to associate partners unto Allah shows the greatness of sin that a person can be guilty of. If a person is a murderer he is vilified and outcast from society, this does not happen when a person treats their parents unfavourably, yet the latter is still classed as a major sin. We should treat all these sins with the caution they deserve, we should avoid each of them, regardless of the society and if they accept one and not the other.

The abuse of one’s parents does not just entail physical abuse, abuse is very broad, anything which could impugn the honour of one’s parents can be classed as abuse. To the extent that even if a person insults another person’s parents and in retaliation that person replies in the same manner, the first person who insulted will be guilty of impugning his own parent’s honour, (as his insult caused the other person to reply).

This has been clearly stated by the best of creation (SAW), this has been related by Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-as (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “It is one of the gravest sins to abuse one’s parents.” It was asked (by the people): “O Messenger of Allah, can a man abuse his own parents?” The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “He abuses the father of somebody who, in return, abuses the former’s father; he then abuses the mother of somebody who, in return, abuses his mother.” (Bukhari) (Muslim) We see that the abuse of parents is prevalent in our age, people will insult others and abuse their parents under the guise of humour, little do they understand the gravity of such insidious remarks.

Do not follow the masses in such folly, even if you deem the insult to be ‘funny’ a tactless joke is the precursor to slander, do not become a person who is among the people who abused their parents on the Day of Judgement. If you feel as though you have developed a habit of cursing others and involving their parents then apologise and seek forgiveness, exercise silence if that does not work then praise their parents instead of insulting them. This is no small matter. Laughter in this world is fueling the cries of agony in the next.

May Allah give us the ability to treat our parents well and benefit from them. Ameen.

Inviting to good and forbidding from evil


Whenever humanity strayed from the righteous path, whenever they had forgotten their Lord and indulged themselves in a hedonistic lifestyle, Allah sent Prophets (AS) to correct the people. They would advise the masses with wisdom and guide them toward Paradise. As the line of Prophets (AS) ended with the Messenger (SAW), his community has been entrusted to carry on his work and show the rest of creation the way they should live their lives.

Allah has outlined our mission: “And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful.” (3:104) The responsibility of trying to guide others now rests upon the shoulders of the Muslim community. They will be questioned if they fail in this regard, if they are active in spreading the truth then they will attain eternal success. The Muslims should never overlook this aspect of their religion, as if they do then they invite calamities upon themselves and Allah’s punishment.

This aspect of enjoining good and forbidding evil is so important to the Muslim community that Allah has praised us for it; “You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. You enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah.” (3:110) If we are steadfast on this forbidding of evil and enjoining of good then, indeed we will be counted under this verse, being praiseworthy individuals. If we do not do this then we cannot claim to be the best of nations.

The reward for enjoining good is immense, as explained by the Prophet (SAW); “He who leads (anyone) to a pious task will get a reward equal to the reward of the person who does that pious work…” (Muslim) This Hadith can be best understood with an example, if one of your friends is neglectful of their compulsory prayer, and you were the means of making them conscious of their prayer. You will be rewarded for every prayer that they performed due to your counsel, every letter of the Quran they prayed in their prayer, their performing of ablution, all of this will be put on your scales on the Day of Judgment. This is a yield massive profit for a person, he is oblivious to the fact that his advice is accumulating good deeds for him. The act of enjoining good and forbidding is a very lucrative investment indeed.

Just as a person will be rewarded for the goodness someone did because of him, so too will he be held accountable for the evil that he spread and others committed due to him. The Prophet has told us; “If anyone invites (people) to the path of piety then he will get a reward equal to the reward earned by all those people who listened to him and walked on the pious path and performed the pious deed, and, because of that, nothing will be deducted from their reward. (And in the same way,) if anyone leads (people) to the wrong path (and bad deeds) then he will have the sin equal to the accumulated sin of all those people who perpetrate the bad deed and follow the wrong path on his lead, and, because of that , nothing will be reduced from the sin (and punishment) of those people.” (Muslim) Influence is a double-edged sword, if you are the means of others committing good then you will have unimaginable reward. If on the other hand, you are a person who propagates evil, be prepared to reap what you sow.

We have seen many incentives to carry out this noble act, yet we remain unaware of the calamities that may befall us if we turn our backs on this. The Prophet (SAW) has warned us; “I swear by that Being Who has my life in His hands, it is incumbent upon you, that you enjoin what is virtuous and that you should forbid what is evil, otherwise Allah will send His punishment on you. Then you will pray to Him but your prayer will not be accepted.” (Tirmidhi) Only Allah in His divine knowledge understands why the community is being tested so severely, however this Hadith may serve as some indication to the question: ‘Why aren’t our prayers being accepted?’. We need to remember; Allah is the same, the Quran is the same, the prayers are the same, the only difference is the people who are raising their hands to make those prayers. If the gates of acceptance are closed we only have ourselves to blame.

May Allah give us the ability to enjoin the good and forbid the evil. May he allow our efforts to yield benefit in both worlds. Ameen.